Before you cut your friends off
Yes, you are right, we should always assess and appraise situations in our lives and make resolutions for a better tomorrow. We hold on to some and let some off our hands. And what better time is ripe for that than turning points in the year like now?
So will you be letting some persons off your network this year before leaping into 2021? I made a list of some reasons you should consider if you want to cut your friends off.
If you never got a phone call from them throughout the year, cut them off.
- If they only comment on your beautiful pictures with beautiful captions, cut them off.
- If they never posted your picture at any time throughout the year, cut them off.
- If they never sent you a check-up message every week, they belong to the trash basket.
- If they did not repost your birthday wish for them on their status, that’s a waste of good space. You really need people who will reverence you and hold you in high esteem.
There might seem to be enough reasons to cut your friends off, especially ones in your close network most of which appear not to be available to contribute to your growth in 2020 and won’t be needed in 2021. They are just occupying space meant for other people who could be handy for your growth.
Before you give me a virtual high five, ask yourself the reason why you want to cut off your “useless friends”. There should be a reason. If your reason does not have anything to do with them being a stumbling block to your growth, you should rethink your decision in fact abort the mission. Even if you do not consider them useful to your growth in 2020 or whenever you’re reading this, cutting them off might not be your best alternative.
Have you considered the possibility of you being a fountain that flows into your friends to aid their growth process or you are just concerned about yourself alone?
If everybody you are cutting off at the end of this year because of their “uselessness” was really useful to you, can you handle it? Be honest, can you truly handle it? If you have like five people carrying out the same function in your life, can you bear it?
I am 100% sure that you will not be comfortable with that, so give your friends space to enjoy their access to you and also enjoy your access to them. Everyone is dealing with something so keeping up with you as desired might not in reality be within their reach to offer
Or should I say, what if your favorite friends/ assumed close friends also wants to cut you off because you have not been useful to them, how would you feel?
It doesn’t really have to be you. Have you also been the best friend your friends could have? Sometimes the friends you have or the people you know might not be your source of blessing but they can be strategic to your blessing.
While I was younger, one of the lessons my mum drilled into me as a form of curbing my stubbornness was that whenever I feel like sticking a pin into another person, I should stick it into my palm first, if I feel pain then it means the other person will be hurt too. So, try to stick this pin into yourself and see if it will hurt.
Correct your mindset from being the receiver always to being the giver. Meet the needs of the people around you, do not always expect them to give you. When you are always expecting them to give you something, you are activating your seventh sense and it is very dangerous to your survival.
Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them. John 7:38
Long story short, be a blessing to everybody around you. Let it flow from within across to everyone you meet.
With love from me to you.
