Idea vs Reality
Do you know you can be in love with the idea of a thing and not want the reality?
I wasn’t expecting a Yes though but if it’s a Yes, congratulations, and if it’s a no, I just told you. If you are in love with the idea alone, the reality will not sit well with you in fact you will want to take off immediately you discover.
You must have heard of a newly wedded couple filing for divorce a few days/weeks /months of their wedding and you wonder what could be wrong and why does it have to be after the wedding, well there could actually be a possibility that either or both of them are only in love with the idea of the other person and when reality dawns on them they realize they are not cut out for this reality at all and all they want is the idea.
Permit me to digress a bit.
You have a crush and of course you admire him/her and finally you get the chance to be close to them and even get to be in a relationship with them. You started off well but along the line you discover, this person is not really what you think since you only saw them from afar. A closer look won’t have hurt you but we prefer to conclude base on a faraway view 😜.
So I was in church one day admiring one of the young ministers in the church. He was single though so it wasn’t a crime (like seriously). A fine, smart, young man burning for God, kai this would have been it o. I was hoping we’d be friends and all that, the thing is as courtesy demands we do brotherly greeting as brethren.
God just dropped something in my heart that what would I do if this my crush comes to me and says he is led to start a relationship with me. Mehn, I will run away o or even if I agreed to it, I might not feel comfortable because obviously, I was only interested in the idea of this person, not the reality. I’d need to get familiar with the reality before I can stay with the idea.
This is beyond the relationship with people, it applies to every facet of life. You can be in love with the idea of a career but not willing to sacrifice to meet the reality of the career. You can also like the idea of an hourglass body but not willing to sacrifice to make the idea a reality.
You can be in love with the idea of God’s baby/beloved but sometimes the reality is not what we bargain for. At a glimpse of the reality, some of us just withdraw back.
You know in your heart that God loves you but the work of loving him back is too hard as you will have to drop everything completely in his hands. And even after dropping everything in God’s hands we still try to sort things out by ourselves, that’s how much we love the idea and not the reality of God.
The next time you are making any decision, ask yourself if you are truly ready for the reality of that decision and not just the idea of it. When a storm comes calling, will you still hold on? Or you drop and run off?
Reality will shake you but it will only make the idea stand strong…..
