Living With My Parents Ep.1
I was on my own one day when I got a nudge to document my experience and learnings living with my parent as a financially independent adult but I wanted to move it till when I was out so I stalled. I’m not out yet, but the nudge has become heavier this few days and here I am.
Disclaimer: I’m not forcing my experience or learnings on you and at the same time, I’m not dismissing your experience. I’m sharing from my perspective and from how far God is showing me. I hope this blesses and encourages you.
Graduating from the university, I was excited to head back home to my folks knowing fully well that in a few months, I would be out for the 1-year compulsory service year. I grudgingly endured the months between my graduation and the start of the service year.
For you to know how eager I was to leave the house, I was praying to be posted to any of the Eastern States where it wouldn’t be possible for my parents to invite me home or for me to head home at any given opportunity. I just want to stay far away from home.
Why?
I had been exposed to a different life than I grew up with. As much as I was able to keep my hands under the cloth during my 1 or 2 months holiday, I couldn’t anymore. I was giving room to ideas and lifestyles from my 4-years in school, and suddenly, I just wanted to stay far away so I can have enough space to explore.
Did I get it? Yes.
Instead of East, I got posted to a fine village in one of the states in North Central, and trust me, I had the freedom I was looking for. Story for another day.
While freedom is a good and valid reason to move out of your parents' house, it is not enough. Living with your parents would place a check on you, as you won’t want to try out something that would most likely offend them and have a negative impact on yourself. But if you live alone, I can assure you that your mantra would possibly be what’s the worst that would happen. 😂 😂 I’m not judging you cos I’ve been there
Sometimes, we need the boundaries our parents will give us to develop stamina or to even develop our boundaries.
You may not see reasons why your mum doesn’t want you out late into the night or why your day frowns at your exposing dress sense at the moment. But those are the things that would most likely reshape your ideologies and lifestyle.
You will assume that moving out indeed makes us free to do what we like with our time, but even while you were living with your parents, they have zero knowledge about what you do when you are out of the house. Technically, you’re still free especially if you’re working.
Before you move out, you want to check that you’re not running off in search of freedom, that you indeed need to move out.
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