How I Failed because I was Scared of Rejection

Have you ever thought of being rejected and that alone made you stick to your shell?

Or have you been rejected already and you decide to use that as an excuse not to step out of your comfort zone?

The simple truth is that rejection is never going to go away, it will always be there. People will tell you NO, either because you don’t worth it or they don’t have the capacity to do it for you.

Like Jesus was rejected several times even though he had good intentions towards these people, but it still didn’t stop him from offering to die on the cross for the sins of the same set of people who rejected him.

He was unbothered about the rejection but he still went ahead to carry out his duty as the one true son of God.

If they could reject someone who came bearing a gift then definitely there is a likelihood that you will be rejected.

Rejection will always happen, but your reaction to it is in your hands. You can decide to be held down and not step out because you don’t want to be rejected, or you can decide that even if you are rejected, you will not be held back and you will keep pressing.

Yes, I have a story to share, like I always do. This story dates back to when I was an undergraduate, I was in 100Level. We had this general course for every 100level student across the entire school, and every week, each student is required to turn in an assignment in form of an essay.

This essay has to be typed and uploaded on an online platform designed and created by the school management and of course, a deadline was attached to the assignment. I didn’t have a laptop, so I can only submit my assignment from a cafe(business center).

On this beautiful day, I was broke, my weekly allowance was yet to be sent from home and I was scared of getting an “I’m sorry, I can’t help you” from the few persons around me like my roommates, coursemates, and friends from church.

I was in 100 Level quite alright but I had influence because I was the assistant class representatives for my department and so, I had access to almost everybody in my department which made it possible for me to reach out to anyone of my coursemate to help out, but I assumed every student was as broke as myself, and so they will turn me down.

I ended up not submitting my assignment and failed that assessment obviously. A few days after, I had a conversation with a friend and, there, I expressed how I missed an assignment because I couldn’t afford the cost of getting it done.

This friend felt like spanking me because I never considered reaching out to him, he was not happy with me, because he would have helped, and even if he couldn’t he would have gotten help for me.

I shouldn’t have had to miss an assignment if I had been willing to reach out and ask for help, but what do I know.

I learned my lesson but not completely, I learned gradually and I am still learning to ask for help when I need it, I am learning to reach out to people and not allow the fear of rejection to hold me back.

You can decide in your heart when you want to make a decision, make a request, or apply for something. Convince yourself that even if you get rejected, you will be satisfied with the fact that you tried, and who knows your request can be accepted but you won’t know that it would because you never tried.

Shoot your shot regardless of your assumed ending. I have a couple of stories about the few times I ditched the fear of rejection and got accepted, just the same way I have stories about how I couldn’t ditch this fear and I accepted the what if.

Don’t be too hard on yourself, allow yourself to fail and get rejected, but don’t crumble when it happens, rather dust your body and try again.

It’s pretty much impossible to do this on your own and that’s why you have Jesus as your support and your strength. He is available and willing to offer you strength when you need it and beyond.

People will reject you or your request, and it’s normal but don’t give up.

He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. Isaiah 40:29–30

Do you have a similar experience as I do and you would like to share how you scaled through? Kindly reach out to me on Whatsapp or Twitter, I will love to learn from your experience and get to know you as well.

Cheers🥳🥳